I understand the desire to be acknowledged and appreciated for a job well done. It is a very important thing indeed, and your husband is making a huge mistake by not giving you the credit you deserve.
One thing is, that there is no biological or hormonal aspect to your comparison. You are continuing to do what so many other LDrs tend to do which is reduce the need for sex to the need to be appreciated, respected, acknowledged, etc....it is far FAR more complex and deep that the comparison you are trying to make. I realize that, on the surface, they may seem similar but they are really completely different.
I think it is pretty telling how you make the connection between your husband's sexual needs and your valid need to be appreciated for your "work or research project." Perhaps this is a "Freudian" slip but, it probably is not an accident that an LD person once again uses "work" or "project" in reference to sex. This would also lead me to believe that you are missing the boat in regards to your husbands "need" (although it is much deeper that just a "need") for sex.
