Thanks in_it. I think you're right. I just had a long phone conversation with H (never happens!) and he acknowledged taking down a pic on Instagram that d15 was bothered by. I gave him lots of room & didn't say anything for a bit but he didn't elaborate about unfriending so I didn't bring it up either.
We talked about H moving down to our area. We're out of district in the school and were caught... H said he was planning on moving here anyways so he may as well look for place in district. It is hard to support this decision, even though I'm sure it'd be good for dds. It's a huge financial strain that will take money away from me, as he says 'I need you to figure out how much you actually need every month'. Time to re-check my maintenance/child support schedule since d18 will be gone soon...
H made no comments about D and implied that he would continue supporting us... even said he wanted to make sure we had enough money for our beautification routine... had to laugh at that one. I guess he's noticed the mani/pedi/colored hair after all. haha. I expressed that I can reevaluate my budget but I still had one credit card I needed help with, mostly kid stuff. He offered to pay it off in the fall when his work was busy. For now, I'm very appreciative that he is still taking care of us and I told him so. I told him that this is a transition we'll have to adjust to, that I didn't think I'd be able to adjust to the financial withdrawal when he left, but we're doing okay. This is just another adjustment.
Reality is about to hit... but I'm not panicking (surprisingly!) and doing okay. And I thanked H for discussing this with me. I think he's probably been afraid to do so too based on old reactions.
