Your h is all over the place. And the ow is pulling hard right now so I am not surprised he is going on the trip. And texting at 5 am? Geez. Can we say insecure and freakin right about now. Hee hee. Oops, did I laugh out loud? My bad. Not. LOL!
I actually think it is necessary for both of you that he goes.
I posted this on your last thread. Wasnt sure if you saw it. You had questioned why your h might feel like he is missing out since he had a lot of gf's and went away to school, etc.
Originally Posted By: uRworthy
Sometimes, when they hit a milestone age like 40 or 50, they start to question life. They realize that they are responsible for a family, a career, etc. And they think that they will not ever have total freedom again. They are getting older and their mortality is hitting them.
Now, for healthy men, those ages give them pause but they are able to handle it appropriately. But for those who have issues from childhood or issues not properly dealt with, they go into crisis.
As far as the ow, the general length of these affairs is commonly between 18 and 24 months. Of course, that is a broad generality. How long it lasts has a lot of variables.
The idea is for you to outlast it.
And for him to figure himself out.
It is natural to feel frustrated, T. How could you not? But I dont think your story is over with him. And I know that you want to know you did everything you could to keep your family together.
