I want preface this with the statement that I am as HD as anybody.

All R are about give and take, agreed? When we lose that balance is when troubles start. Finding a way to rebalance the R by openly saying what we need, being the S that our S needs, and negotiating where necessary will help the sitch. Pouting and "taking your ball and going home" will only temporarily solve the problem if at all. This weekend looked to be a crappy one at my house and I was ready to withdraw. After receiving good advice here, I went home and acted like an adult. Did things ever change. I feel very wanted today and my W feels loved and secure. It was some of the most positive time we have spent together in a long time. We were both thoughtful, appreciative and respectful. We both gave and we both took. It was awesome.

What we learned is that how you do or say something can be far more important than what is done or said. I am not trying to pretend to be a guru at this. Just wanted to pass along what worked for me.