I'm not sure if your post was in response to mine or not.
Quote: I find it difficult to truly believe someone when they say they "understand" the sexual side of things, while, in the same breath, they are comparing sex to a "project." I don't care which planet you come from, if you can make this analogy (sex=project) then you don't understand the most basic ideas behind sex drives. Sex is not something we "do" it is something that is CORE to us.
If so, do you realize you have completely dimissed and trivialized my feelings?
Sex, for you, isn't something you do, it is something that is the CORE to YOU. Well, the things that are important to me, my projects and such, come from the CORE of me and are as equally important TO ME as your feelings are to YOU.
I do not have to fathom or even completely understand what drives my HD husband. What I do need to do, however, is respect the fact that that is how HE feels, and do all that I can to honor that.
Conversely, it is my wish that, even though he may not understand what drives me, he respects it as being as valid as his own needs, and does all he can to honor those feelings.
If we get it right, then sometimes my needs will take priority, and sometimes his needs will take priority. If we work together, everyone CAN be happy. But it certainly will never happen if he continues to dismiss my feelings as inferior to his own, or not valid, or not as important as his own simply because he can't 'fathom' it.
