Found this list of 180's from a previous thread from March:
My Goals/180's:
1) find myself ~ still searching for her! 2) do not be a doormat/available ~ not nearly as avail. as I used to be. At times still a doormat. 3) continue to detach ~ have been doing this too! Dim helps. 4) to be happy... I am a happy person ~ have had several happy moments, looking for more. 5) to be less "needy"/lost ~ not needy, just lost still. 6) to be more involved with my daughter ~ we have dinners, want more time with her 7) to be confident ~ work in progress!! 8) make friends ~ have made a few, making more (joined church)
9) let h pursue me ... I DESERVE this much! 10) let h contact me 11) let h prove his love for us 12) have h fall in love with me again & maintain that love/admiration
can't control 9 through 12. the first set MIGHT help your H become more interested in you and perhaps he might start to re-engage you on a personal level.
13) sell lots of product/downsize the business ~ accomplishing!! 14) find Positive Attitude & maintain ~ daily struggle 15) marriage/reunion ~~~ fingers crossed (gotta have hope)
It is OK to hope for 15, just put that goal in a box for right now and put it up on the shelf. You can bring it down sometime later IF things go that way.
