Ease on down the road......

[uRworthy]

He has a whole freakin parfait up there! Lol!!!

True dat, T!

What's strange is that it seems often times the MLCer keeps everything loved ones give them (as Snodderly says, sometimes even the wrapping paper!)

Yea, well, I didnt have one of those.

So it's odd that he wouldn't want the stuff from your son. Then again, everything about your x is odd!

Nope, didnt want a thing.

And maybe he has tried to forget how happy you were - too painful to remember.

I am not sure if he is still in the we were never happy mindset or not.
I think not, but who knows.?

I can't remember... Did he have a bad childhood? Would he not want any reminders of it?

He lost his mother to cancer when he was 14. He had a great relationship with his dad and sister and by his accounts, had a great childhood.

T, You will hurt yourself trying to figure him out.

And you never know what could happen in the future... I picture meeting you at your favorite diner (I know you have to have one!), me ordering breakfast no matter what time it is, you ordering your favorite thing from the menu, and us shooting the ____ for many hours.

Then of course we would need dessert! Lol! Just no jello...

The thought makes me smile

Ah, T, that thought just made my day. And you are right, you never know. I know it would be wonderful. And yes, never jello! LOL!

[reachingHigher]

uRw, I just read the account of the texting convo about the photos.

Wow!

Impossible to understand.

You are soooooo patient

[uRworthy]

Hey Rh, yea, he's a nutty one. Boggled my mind that in all these years he never wanted not one picture of our son or his father who passed away or anyone else. He is still in the tunnel. Makes me sad for him.

And yes, I will say, I have a whole lot of patience.

Thanks for stopping by.

[beatrice]

Your xh is aspecial one in a class all by himself. although i do think my sh's recent behaviour is getting there. After having invited himself to the family party for my eldest son's bday, and being told (by his sons) that he wasn't welcome, he then invited us all to a meal in a restaurant he was having for his brother and OW2 (me included)

I have never met the woman, nor she me,and i do wonder how she felt about the invitation. But as my eldest son said that anyone that can hang out with his father for very long must be strange.

He also proposed that he and I meet up again while we are both in the same part of the world (normally we all live dispersed, but he and I are coincidentally in the same city for about 10 days.)

I thanked him for the offer and declined. He really isn't someone i want to spend time with any longer. I also suggested, nicely, that he might want to think about apologising to his kids, if he really wants to get back into their lives.

I then get a reply: "I have absolutely no idea what you are talking about" THEN he sets up a barrage of emails to his kids apologising for anything and everything except what he actually did. It goes in, and gets made into peanut butter

[AJM]

Nice. He wants the pictures of when you were happy together as a memento. Says a lot. I forgot some of the backstory: when he left did he mention he never was happy? Never loved you? You were oppressive, etc? Just curious if he found the "happiness"

Banging your head against the wall? LOL. I can see that. It's like they truly have no memory of what they did. As if it was somebody else that did those things. Like an alien right?

Peace,
AJ

[uRworthy]

Hey Aj, always a treat when you visit my thread.

Nice. He wants the pictures of when you were happy together as a memento. Says a lot.

Yep, sure does. That he's nuts, LOL!

I forgot some of the backstory: when he left did he mention he never was happy? Never loved you? You were oppressive, etc? Just curious if he found the "happiness"

You know, AJ, he didnt say much. He told me that he didnt want to be married anymore and that he hasnt been happy for a long time. Never said he didnt ever love me or said anything about me in a negative way. He wasnt a particularly nasty mlcer in words, but, was in actions.

She left him about two years after the affair began. And in my opinion, he never did find happiness. I dont really have any true idea as he lives 5 hours away. I do know he has not been with anyone else in the last four years. He looks terrible, a shell of a man, really.

But you are right, I dont think he really knows the depth of what he did. Clueless, really.

Um, an alien, ok, we will go with that.

[Takevowsserious]

Hey you ~

Was reading the 5LL's book, and thought you would like this quote -

"Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving."

Though I'd give you something to ponder as you snack on some rocky road or maybe butter pecan.

Just thinking of ya

[uRworthy]

Love the quote, T. And thank you for thinking of me.

I agree that a love should grow out of choice. For a very long time I didnt feel that I had something in me worth loving. I no longer feel that way. And maybe one day, someone will choose to love me and I them.

They would have a lot to take on, though. LOL!

I'm more a swiss almond or pistacchio kind of girl.

[Takevowsserious]

I understand that it would be difficult to find someone who could handle your awesomeness! But I assure you, he is out there

A few months ago, I had a text session with my sis on why she can't find a good guy. Once you recover from your laughter on me dishing out R advice (it IS pretty funny!), think about this...

My sister is in her early 30's. Gorgeous (I'm serious), funny, smart, independent. She claimed men are "terrified" of her. My advice to her was that when a man enters her life who is confident but not cocky, things might just get interesting for her. And then I added something like, "Remember I said this on (date and time)".

We are all worth loving UW. And I dare say to think of this in not in terms of "even you" but more like "especially you".

And you can quote me as saying that, May 28, 2013 9:40 pm.

[uRworthy]

Thank you, T. Really. You words touch my heart.

I am open to whatever life brings and if it happens, it happens.

I am not going to lie, I have a couple of things that some men might not want to take on.

I am so blessed to have people in my life, like you, to make me feel so special. I know I am worthy, T. I do. and thank you for reminding me.