MLC by MIL death/daughter car accident/new job

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We used to take care of her together. I realize now that it is awkward. I really don't have a problem with it. But...I don't get any relief and he knows just what to do. Maybe not give her a shower but getting her ready in morning and evening. It's like he flies into town pick her up already to go. drop her off. and picks her up again the next day. I resent it that he gets to be with her but doesnt have to help out.

And the couple...well it was obvious. They left in separate vehicles and hers had the soccer mom and family outlines on the back window. He had a fancy sports car. I know judging but it was what it was. Sometimes when we are out together we try to guess what couples are talking about and if its a first date, the morning after, cousins, high school friends, etc. So it wasn't meant to be vindictive.

The tension with the kids and us is awful. Its' going to be a tough weekend. As I told my D this evening, the way he ended things was very hurtful. And we are unable to communicate with each other right now. My D asked us to go to counceling...he refused. Said your mom needs it and that he's fine.

Anyway, just trying to maintain my GAL, PMA, and 180 so I'm mentally prepared. I will CHOOSE not to let it bother me. He is just another visitor that I'm too busy to see.