round and around we go

[hotwheelsaust]

[quote=Tallula I just saw him as giving up without even trying. But, what I see now is that we both spent 6 months "telling" each other we were unhappy...without ever telling each other. So I had to start to wrap my brain around the fact that he did feel like he had tried. And that I didn't hear him. And that our versions of trying are different. Just because it doesn't look the way I think it should, doesn't invalidate his feels that he did try.

But I could listen, validate and go on about my life without agreeing to it or defending myself. This is been just as paramount to MY happiness has the loss of expecations.

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Wow, Tallula, that is one of those statements that just hit the spot. I have copied it to my file of comments to keep coming back to.