Good Old England

[25yearsmlc]

You give out info in parcels and leave out A LOT of relevant info especially if it does not make you look good

so it's hard to assess. But YOU have said repeated that there is a court date in June...true or not?

If so, that's that. Nothing for her to discuss til then. Why would she? YOU want more than she wants to give...and you want to pay less than she wants to have...

what's in it for HER or SON by "negotiating" with you?

Hello,

If I took 6 months to go to Canada, it was because I was waiting for my papers. But I did say I wanted to delay going because I wanted to spend the summer on the beach, which I remember she took very bad. Instead of being happy for me..


WOW...

so after 6 months away from her and your son,

YOU think SHE should have been HAPPY for YOU to delay MORE to go to the beach???

instead of rushing to join her, save the marriage OR helping her raise YOUR son, whom you did not know or help with before?

And now, it SHOCKS you that she doesn't want to share him half time with you?

You continue to sound indignant and outraged....

I believe you lack the gene for empathy. That has to be it.

Read your note^^ again Bruce. you sound like a narcissist with zero self awareness.

I mean, You really do think ^^this way.


Anyway, while on different countries, she had her VISA card, which she used freely. The problem is, she claimed she didn't have access to the money because I was such a stingy man, but when I printed all the bank statements with her withdrawals and my L put it in the file, she stopped that claim. What was she thinking?

she was thinking she could access marital assets for support and child care. What were YOU thinking?

That She ought to get nothing? She should be punished? Or she ought to gratefully accept whatever YOU MIGHT feel like giving if and when you were in a "good humor"?

But you have a good point, my wanting to be with my son must look like another trick, or a revenge on her, since apparently I wasn't interested in him before.

You are Not "apparently" not interested in him, you are just truly not.

YOU SAID he "Can't do much at this age but say bah bah bah"...remember? YOU Said that...geez...

And you still spend most of your time talking about money and or connecting it to time with him.

Truth is, I really love my S and want to be with him. The mission therefore, is to break her unbelief that I can actually care for S. But how to accomplish that?

Also, nothing is set for end of June. Avoiding going to court again is precisely what I'm trying to achieve.

Makes no sense. You kept saying the support orders were going til June and that you had a court date. Now you say you don't...which is it?

But W does not respond to my question : "I want 50-50 with little Bruce, how do you think we can manage? Do you need a mediator involved? How can I help?"
Is she trying to see of I'm really intent or bluffing?
Is she waiting for the 18 June to serve me the divorce papers?


what is June 18, a court date? It is the end of the support payments so she will need to get them made permanent?

Don't play word games. It helps no one here to dodge the important questions.

She wants you to have less time with him, not more and surely not half and I don't blame her.

Why does this surprise you? What is confusing to you?

"how can I help" WHAT? Help get what you want? She does not want your help in you getting your goal;

she wants HER goals to be achieved...




What do I do next?
Seriously, do I file first for pre- trial? Should I not budge?

You wait and see what she wants and you get flexible.


Should I insist that my demand is not for fake and we're gonna waste some more money if she refuses to respond?

SHE HAS RESPONDED...she does NOT want to talk to YOU.

Stop bullying her and trying to intimidate her with threats.


Frankly I don't know what to do. I'm taken aback and very disappointed that I can't even talk normally, like 99% of normal couples. Honestly, she exaggerating..

You do not speak normally Bruce.

You say things like you did not see your w or son for 6 months b/c your "word delayed" you

BUT that you were going to delay MORE so you could go to the beach

and she was not happy about that but she should have been happy for you.

just so you know Bruce, that sounds so selfish that it's just plain nutty.

And for you to be here now, and still not see that

still not get it,

shows some seriously prideful stubborn blindness on YOUR end Bruce...

BTW, wake up Bruce, b/c if you say stuff like that in court--well,

good luck getting much time with your son.
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