PS! Buddy! I expect an update in your thread on your sitch!
Yes, I know I'm doing nothing but mindreading right now. My therapist tells me it too. What just occurred to me as I write this is that she is mindreading on me now (if she even thinks of me at all). And I know that if she is, she probably is thinking I'm angry and uninterested in reconciliation.
I just have this incredible urge to apologize. I don't know if she knows that I am sorry. I bear a huge responsibility for the way things turned out. My career got derailed right as we got married and it really turned me into somebody unpleasant and somebody who I'm really not! And it got worse the last six months before the BD because my current job just got out of control and my dad was in and out of the hospital and I was just at the end of my rope....
One thing that I can tell irks here from the documents and hearing is the fact that I have counsel. Our initial talk was to end it amicably, but that was before her false DV accusation. A DV charge or non-temporary restraining order could ruin my employability. I had no choice.
I know some things are unfixable, but I truly believe that our marriage is not one of those things.
QUESTION FOR ALL: I know that if I see her as part of the finalization process that I am to act "as-if," but does anyone have any thoughts on having my lawyer pass a brief message along as part of the settlement process. Something along the lines of "I am truly sorry that things ended up this way. There's nothing I'd like more than to reconcile with you, but if you feel this is the only way you can be happy, I understand."
