"when h does reach out (very little) how should I be responding."
Positively but not go overboard.
"I know that it has to be his decision to come back. Is going dim and distancing further working?"
Only you will be able to answer this.
"Not responding to his every text? is all this good?"
Again, only you will be able to see what kind of response you're going to get. The problem with you is that you'll try something for a very short time (sometimes not even a day) and then say that it doesn't work or get paranoid and try something else that goes counter to what you were just doing.
You have to give any action some time. When you do change your actions, he will initially react with anger or confusion because you're changing the plan. You're not acting the way he's used to you behaving. Any change is bad for him. But you need to show him that you're your own person and will not be controlled by him.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
