THAT is "space" for her. THAT is "independence" for her. I'm a good man and she sees it. Let's roll the dice and see how this all plays out. I cannot let the fear of self-preservation of what is an unhealthy derivation of self-value get in the way of what she is asking me for. True respect = true compliance with her stated decisions.
I see what you are saying there...
Maybe a fear of success ???
Maybe you are afraid that you are going to move too far forward, and she won't be able to catch up ???
I know that sounds strange, just try it on and see how it fits....
Maybe a fear of success...I'll certainly chew on that.
In this particular example, I have thought a LOT about my road block of moving on/moving past her. And I'll give your fear of success idea some thought, but what I have maintained throughout my journaling and what little I've told confidants is that my road block is that I don't want to become a man who is not in love with her. That just isn't who I wanted to be.
Over the last year and a half I have certainly realized I have a fear of failure. I self-sabotage. I give only 70 or 80 or 90% so that if I do fail, I can always look back and say, "I failed...yeah...but if I had given it my ALL, then I would have succeeded." It's something I've been working hard to correct as this permeates throughout almost all aspects of my life.
New mantra: 100%. No excuses. If I fail, I fail. Learn and move forward.
-PM
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"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
