I have always had passion, about almost everything. I have no idea how I would generate passion about something I was not interested in though.
Sometimes I think my passion has been a hindrance to my wife finding her niche in life. I don't know of anything she is passionate about, except maybe gardening plants and flowers.
The wife and I are still struggling. It's been five days since we last had sex. She tries to do all the right things and have a good attitude about it. I know that must be very difficult for her. The underlying mechanics of her actions, and the ease at which she can "fall from grace" are still very visible.
That visibility is killing my desire to continue trying (again). My level of desire hasn't changed, but I honestly can't keep asking her to try and be something that she can't be. It really isn't even hurting my feelings not to be desired, rather I find myself hurting for her.
We exchanged emails a few weeks ago. I told her I thought we were about done. She said we were just trying to get each other into our respective 'boxes', and that we were not beyond repair. I didn't agree. A week long valiant effort ensued (as expected) and petered out into nothing (as expected). If you think that expectation killed any chance of success, it didn't. I have been the route of positive thinking too - same result.
So, folks, I still believe there is hope, but I believe even more strongly than before, that waiting to deal with sexual inequity is akin to playing russian roulette with your relationship. Don't wait decades to deal with your spouse. Do it while there is still a spark in the relationship and a chance for recovery.
I am pulling for Corri. I hope she can kindle a spark in herself that will ignite passion in her relationship, but Corri, if things don't go well, don't feel like you have to keep up a good face. Come talk to your buds here. We can all fall on our face occasionally.
Personally, I am hoping that plastic surgery can correct all the skid marks on my face :-)
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
