" But also I just want to point out that,my DB coach had the same position. That is, to show my wife that I am a better.option, to show her how desirable she is to me, to make her feel loved and appreciated. Thats pretty much competing with the OM just not in the exact same words as Dr Harley."
You're wrong. DB principles are that you fix the issues that bothered your spouse about you. You do your best, but you're not in competition with the OM. The problem with seeing it as a competition is that once you feel like you've "won" her, you'll go back to your old self, making those changes you did all fake.
DB is to teach lifelong lessons and NOT as a ploy just to get your spouse back.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
