round and around we go

[willbwell]

VENTING AHEAD...let me just get this out...

I know its his life. He will have to face his own stuff. But it comes at the expense of my 3 kids.
H says why would I want him to do something he does not want to do( stay in the marriage) I said he is asking us to do something we do not want(D) H is selfish, its true. I knew this about him when I married him. But, I loved him anyway and was happy to do all the kid & home stuff.
H decided to leave without giving us a chance. That is hurtful to me. Can't force him . I know.
I have asked H to give me and the kids some space now. He has demonstrated that he does not want to be part of their daily lives. texting is no replacement for being a parent.

I have a dilemma though. I was going to go out of town by myself this weekend. H was going to stay here at the house with kids. Sweet d has a dance recital on sat that H will take her to.
Now, I think I will cancel my out of town. I have asked him to give us space. Sorry but if doesn't want to be a part of daily lives then he doesn't get to do the fun stuff either. Is this being ugly &resentful on my part? He can come to the show. I can't stop him I do plenty of GAL. All of this has no impact on H. He doesn't care. He can't see past his own needs

thoughts???