For me... after last Sunday happened with my W, I began to wonder if I made a mistake or not by ML. But then I landed on the conclusion that regardless of the reasons you begin, physical intimacy naturally creates a bond. (It was a bond that the AP hand the upper hand on since my W had halted our intimacy to "protect me" as she put it.) So I am glad that we did. It had become the elephant in the room since we had not done so for so long. I think afterward we were both happy to have been together and felt reassured that we still had that connection after all this time.
It could easily have gone the other way though. We could have been apart physically for so long that we could have been unable to connect anymore. I wouldn't want that for you and your H either.
I think bug is right though. You do need to protect yourself.
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
