Last couple of weeks have been great, but also tough. There's been some hard discussions, a lot of hurt, and serious trust issues, but overall, I felt like the discussions were positive. We were spending a lot more time together outside of the immediate family, and that felt good.
Unfortunately, after a weird incident over last weekend, I felt like she was not being completely truthful. It only took a few days to find that she was still talking to OM every day and seeing him when she could.
I confronted her last night and gave her an opportunity to come clean. She had a very difficult time being honest, and after a few questions, I ended up ending the discussion because of continued lies. I gave her our last divorce papers, asked her to make whatever edits she needed to, and get them back to me today so that we can submit.
It's been a long long road, and while I still am holding out hope that reconciliation may happen one day, I can no longer stay in a relationship with a third person involved.
There is really no better way to describe an EA/PA than addiction. I could see the pain in my W's eyes, I could see that she really wanted to let OM go, she just hasn't found the strength to do so yet. So until then, I'll refocus on me and my kiddos, and keep moving forward.
