DBing European Style, part 2

[Papa4Life]

Back to the mediator for another round this afternoon. What has probably been the most difficult for me has been the speed with which W is pushing our D. She must've been extremely unhappy to want to get out this badly.

I am a bit jealous of people who get separated first. It's a gift of time that I'm being denied. Then again, W was never much of a gifter

We had to go over the agreement about the childrearing arrangements on Sunday. W still tried to convince me that I should participate in family birthdays and events, but I need to move away from that in order to focus on myself. She started to get heated up about it and used it as an opportunity to bludgeon me for my perceived shortcomings.

She even criticised me for a lack of communication, which is ironic. She barely responds to me when I try to talk to her but *I'm* the one who doesn't communicate. It's an age-old story on this merry-go-round of a M of ours.

Any hints on encouraging conversation?