As for 180's... I still don't know them. I even asked my D22 earlier today, what some of the things H complained about. She didn't recall either, but insisted that I stop taking his crap. Learn to stand up for myself.
Went to a co-d/addicttion meeting tonite and ran into a friend. He was completely shocked to see me there. He even suggested that I be the girl I used to be that he found very attractive over all the years he has known me. Be the confident person that I used to be, and stand up to H.
KD or anyone... based on your reading about me & my sitch. (as I scratch my head).. Does ANYONE know of a 180 that stands out, that you have noticed I should have? that I could be working on?
Found this list of 180's from a previous thread from March:
My Goals/180's:
1) find myself ~ still searching for her! 2) do not be a doormat/available ~ not nearly as avail. as I used to be. At times still a doormat. 3) continue to detach ~ have been doing this too! Dim helps. 4) to be happy... I am a happy person ~ have had several happy moments, looking for more. 5) to be less "needy"/lost ~ not needy, just lost still. 6) to be more involved with my daughter ~ we have dinners, want more time with her 7) to be confident ~ work in progress!! 8) make friends ~ have made a few, making more (joined church)
9) let h pursue me ... I DESERVE this much! 10) let h contact me 11) let h prove his love for us 12) have h fall in love with me again & maintain that love/admiration
~ 9 thru 12 ~ backed wayyyy off. I'm just maintaining space and letting him close the distance instead of me running towards him which just makes him run the other way
13) sell lots of product/downsize the business ~ accomplishing!! 14) find Positive Attitude & maintain ~ daily struggle 15) marriage/reunion ~~~ fingers crossed (gotta have hope)
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
