Wii, wish I could take the credit for it, but I can't. That was my sister, and yep, it was in the context of sports. But it stuck with me and I've found it true in lots of contexts since then.
My D19 is a competitive volleyball player. She would sometimes play it safe so she didn't make an error. Volleyball by nature is a game of errors. She was 13, and my sister pulled her aside and told her that. She's been pretty good about settling for being a really good and smart player ever since.
But since we're all imperfect, it applies elsewhere.
So go settle for being really good. You're already there!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
i do not keep a journal except what i write here. i know that i do good. the problem i have is i always feel the negatives outweigh the positives. it is something i am really working on with my sponsor.
as for women loving a vulnerable man.. i don't know about that. i am starting to think women love a$$holes..lol i have a hard time showing a vulnerable side. unless im talking about my kids. my whole life i have been taken advantage of because i do things for people. mr. nice guy stuff i know.. Wii, i have read the book btw. interesting. hard for me to apply. if i did find a good woman, which i doubt, i most definitely will just be me. imperfections and all. then i can be totally loved.
the settling for being really good, or good enough totally hit home with me! wow!!! i see how it relates to sports. i always wanted to be perfect until my coach told me to quit. he told me to go play my game, and let the chips fall where they may. i stopped worrying so much about not messing up. i just played and i played my a$$ off. i made mistakes, but my successes far outweighed them. i never thought life could be like that... thank you. i have been in a good mood since reading that two days ago.
and bug you are right. when i kept messing up my life i had no hope. i felt empty, so i would fill it up with my addictions. i used to call it turning into a monster. whether it was booze, drugs,sex or adreniline. i became a monster. a different person. i felt on fire and i loved it. the funny thing is, im starting to feel a little of that burn lately but it is different. more of a slow steady burn. i like it.
i made mistakes, but my successes far outweighed them.
So this is totally awesome for you. Now you can reframe what you do every day in this context and know - and I mean really know that you are successful most of the time. It sure helps keep the glass half full. After all, who wants to sit around and dwell on the things that are not so successful or that bring shame? We don't like it when friends do this, so why would we do it to ourselves?
I mean, really. There are already too many people out there who seem happy enough to knock us down. Why would we want to help them?
Slow and steady burn. I like that!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey