Yes it is sad jaytee that the WAS can put other people first when the marriage is in trouble. But that is how it happens. I look at it as I have been putting myself first for so many years, and therefore have let my W down a hell of a lot. Now it is her turn to put herself first and I suppose let me down. The difference, if we can call it a difference, is that I wasn't aware of what I was doing, she is. But it is her choice to make, whether she does it by herself, or has friends to help make that choice. My original letter to the W many months ago focused on how strong I thought she was to walk out of the marriage, then I stated about how strong she would look to our boys, if she then allowed the chance for us to work on the marriage. I mentioned that I didn't think anyone would feel that she should be ashamed if we worked on the marriage, rather, they would be proud she stood for certain principles until they were fixed.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
