jaytee, one of the things I have tried to think about for my W, is Amway (apologies to anyone involved in it). My W and I did this many, many years ago, and all I can think is we focused on trying to impress people we really didn't care about, pretended everything was fine, faked how good we were doing money wise and achieved very little. I think in someways our W's are doing the same thing. Pretending it's all good. My W talked about selling the houses many months ago, back when the BD happened, at this stage still nothing else has been mentioned. If she was so set on selling the houses, why not continue to demand them being sold. I also think, like us, we have moments of doing something that felt right and then later regretted. For example, taking photos off the wall and ripping them up, throwing out letters that were for the W but couldn't be bothered to give them to her. By the way, I haven't done either of these. I feel my W, put separated on Facebook in one of these moments, and probably later regretted it. But to save face, she can no longer put married back as she then has to have me confirm it.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
