Oh boy.

Not sure if you'll read this before your meeting.

First, he won't be completely honest. WAS can't be completely honest. Not when they're still in crisis/transition.

It really doesn't sound like you are up for a talk - emotionally or mentally frown

Best thing is to just try to keep your cool. If this means you have to keep this meeting very short then so be it. Business matters can be handled via email.

WBW, your thread title, "round and around we go" is very telling. The two of you will continue with the round and round until one of you steps off the ride.

I'd suggest that be you.

If he tells you he's in love with someone else... say ... ok.

What else can you say? Especially if you asked for "honesty"...

I'm out of my depth here - hope I'm leading you closer to the side of the pool and not further from it.

As I understand it, when the LBS gets the "bomb" the best thing to do is recognize that "bomb" ends a marriage. That doesn't mean necessarily divorce, but it means the marriage that "was" is now over. If there is to be a reconciliation both parties have to change, and the relationship has to change as well.

Do you feel you know what you want yet? Are you 100% sure you want D? Because if you're not, then back peddle as much as you can away from "talks".

It doesn't seem you have strengthened yourself enough just yet. Not that you should put off protecting yourself legally or financially!! But the rest of the stuff maybe should wait a bit.

So keep your cool. Listen and hear. If it gets bad excuse yourself until another time.

Best of luck smirk


Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.