I'll be thinking of you today during your lunch. I'm having the same struggle now, dealing with WAH withdrawing from kids and drawing towards ow. I know we're supposed have no expectations but honesty is pretty basic and is a hard expectation to let go of!
Depending on how you worded your text, try to make your conversation as non-accusatory as possible.
I wish someone had an answer for how to handle this but I'm just as lost. But you have support. I'll be checking back to see how it goes.
