Closer to Fine

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This turned into a great discussion. I think when we find that one thing that we're most afraid of and are able to understand it and stop protecting that spot, we can move froward. It's in there and many are afraid to dig deep enough to even get to it. I was for a long time.

While I agree D may be a societal problem, we shouldn't be surprised because there are many ways our society doesn't support families. I come up against this on a daily basis in my work. But the good news is, each of us can make changes that will affect ourselves, our Rs and our families. Sometimes those changes are difficult...most times they are difficult and sacrifices must be made, so we put it off. Making real change isn't easy. We have to hit rock bottom before we see the light.

I think M is also a societal problem as it seems it's become all about how much money can we spend so my wedding is bigger and better. Or that you'll meet someone on a reality show and become soulmates. Do our kids watch this stuff? What message are they getting? I could go on but I won't.

Courts rule on the business R that a marriage is and unfortunately, they do get tasked with trying to stem the wreckage of kids lives. Courts see black and white, as they should; we can't expect them to be able to make perfect sense of something when the 2 people who are supposed to love the child more than anyone can't figure it out.

I don't know what the statistics are on whether kids are better off now that D is easier and people aren't stuck in M riddled with abuse, violence, substance abuse. It's my belief that D being made easier is a good thing. I've been around long enough to remember the bad old days. A law can't force a "bad" spouse to become a "good" spouse.

No matter what the statistics might indicate, or courts might decide or society does or does not support, each of us has the awesome opportunity to take responsibility for our lives and make necessary changes. In doing that we change not only our lives but our children's lives and their children's lives...