Dropped S off at W this am. She mentioned the holidays again! Said I am thinking on it and would let her know. I can't leave it too much longer as then I come across as indecisive! She seemed relaxed and then said if you can do anything it would be great.
So as I think about it I wanted to throw another thought in the mix. W had very little breaks when we were together and to agree to have S whilst she has a longer break with her friend would be a 180 for me. It is things like this that I think if we ever did R then I would make sure she had more time out from caring for S....so something like this would not be out of the question.
Now its all very well if I say it will be different if we R but actions speak louder than words....so I am thinking along the lines that if she is to believe the M is to be different and she get a better life outside the M home, perhaps doing this for her will demonstrate just that. That opportunities likes this aren't just because we are S. If that all makes sense?
Could use a little help with some sort of speech that would discretely let W know that she could get time out like this even if we were together.
If she does use it to go away with OM then is that a risk I just take, i.e. take a leap of faith that she is planning to go with a GF?
To summarise:
1. If I say yes, I prove to W that I am different, she would be very grateful and an opportunity to prove our M could be different.
2. If I say no, disappointment, anger and more of the same behaviour if I am being completely honest.
I could really use a sense check on this as my heads still in in a spin at the moment!
