My WAW - coming to terms with it all!

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HEy Buddy,

Thanks for the support. It was nice to read your post.

I havent been getting much feedback lately, so its nice to get some words of encouragement.

Things keep slipping away. We talked about selling the house and I mentioned that i was interested in buying her out and keeping the house and doing the renovations we had planned.

W is looking at houses near her parents place, about 15 mins away. she wants to be near them so that they can help her with picking up boys after school etc.
She mentioned that she now wants to look at the boys living with her Mon-Fri and Ill be allowed to have them on the weekends.

Its devasating, we have been co parenting for 6 months now and its has been working well. She is now trying to change our arrangement and keeps using the term " whats best for the kids" to justify her decision making. I styed calm and just kept talking to her saying that it was a pretty serious change and that it would be good to view all the options we have so that we can make sure we do whats best for the kids AND works for both of us as well.

As we continued to talk she brought the past up, about how she felt she was never allowed to have an opinion. I validated her feeling and asked her if she still felt that way. She said "not really...you are operating in a different way now"

Later on i said we needed to try and be considerate about how some decisions impacted on each others lives and that it was necessary to talk things through to ensure we were both comfortable with the deicsions. She mentioned she was upset about the idea of me taking over the house and that I wasnt being considerate to her and started to cry a little and walked out.

We wrapped up the talk shortly after and I left.

I am afraid to lose my 50% co-parenting with the boys. I know I am a great father, that my sons and I have a special bond and it grows everyday. I dont want to argue with my W about this as she will jsut see this as a justification why she left in the first place. I feel her decision making is not coming from a rational place and that she keeps using the excuse of "best for the kids" but it all seems to be whats best for her. It feels like she is still motivated a little by her resentment against me and that influences her decision making. Im not sure how spending less time with their father will be better for my sons.?

I feel powerless! Its heart braking ....I dont know what to do. Nothing has been agreed to yet so I dont know how it will pan out and Im not sure how to approach it.

Help!