Thank you v much, Ryfkat, NLW and ForeverYoung, for your nice words.

I still think that H is slowly warming up as I continue GAL and being more detached. He wanted to show me a YouTube clip yesterday. I no longer ask him questions when he's in his study and just figure that he's occupied so go about my own thing even though it's tempting to ask him for information or help when he's in there. A couple of times recently I've noticed that he's come out of his study when he's heard me in the kitchen and initiated conversations himself. He often asks if I've heard from my mother or my father or a sibling.

At one point today, he muttered 'sweetheart' and because I hadn't heard properly I asked him what he'd said. He told me and then said he was referring to S13. I said jokingly that I'd figured that and then he said well it's also true of you. I was so stunned that I said nothing.

He's back to napping a lot and sleeping much more generally now that his AD dose is back up. I figure that it's better than being depressed and drinking even though historically his low energy gets on my nerves. It helps me to remind myself that he's probably doing the best he can and that I might be sleeping loads if my brain were wired like his.


Me: 51
H: 52
T: 23 yrs
M: 19 yrs
S18, D16, S14 (special needs)
PA: 2003/2004
Piecing: 2004 on
Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012