Bea, I agree w/GM, I do think he's holding on OW2 until he can work his way back into your life. They can't be alone or on their own w/o having someone there. She's a safety net right now. However, I do think he needs to grow up and realize that his sons are grown adults and they do not need to tolerate this behavior. I do think your sons will eventually get tired of this behavior at some point.
Bea, please do not allow this man to get under your skin. He's at a stage whereby he wants back in and only you can determine when you want that door to open or remain shut. As GM, stated "shelved the relationship until a future date". Until then, continue living your life as you have been. Life is far too short to allow this crazy man to ruin it for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
