Bea, it's interesting. Your xh, like mine, couldn't seem to live a day without being dependent on a woman (that's what I remember from your thread). He's not going to let go of ow2 before he has someone else lined up, including you. I could be totally wrong, but once he has done the backwards reconnection, the boys, then you, he might let go of ow2. He still needs a safety net. He's still incapable of being on his own and learning about and changing himself. Bea, you didn't go through all that you did to be reconnected with someone who can't do their own work. The same goes for your kids. I know some will disagree with me, but I don't believe kids need a relationship with both parents at all costs. Your xh is still acting like an adolescent. That's not good for anyone. It's crazy making. Who knows what the future holds. I'm not an advocate for cutting ties with people forever, no matter who they are, but there are times you need to shelve the relationship until a future date.
