my eldest son has been very firm, and told him that there is no further contact. Xh wrote and said he was proud of him, and son wrote back and said that he was ashamed of the way his father had behaved.
My two younger sons are being ridden rough shod over, and I hope at some point they will stand up to him. They did initially when he started his MLC, but they now care less than they did, so are more willing to put up with someone they used to care deeply about and now find an embarrassment. .
I have stepped right away from the drama. BUT I am not facilitating the relationship any more. This is simply enabling behaviour.
I really wanted them to have a relationship, and encouraged contact, but now see that it is only his (and OW2) terms. The children are old enough to make their own decisions
I have long thought he would remain stuck - although he showed some signs of moving forward earlier this year, but I now feeling he is in his second MLC.
I do not understand though why he continues to want me in his life. He has OW2. I don't want him in my life and I am on my own!
