//The DB lesson I learned on my previous thread: If you are not ready to rock the boat or have your MLCer disappear resist any and all attempts to have a R talk. Even when the MLCer insists.//
Even when the MLCer insists?... why?, if they bring it up... aren't we supposed to listen and validate?
Yes, to a certain extent, we are. This particular R talk though, he wanted answers from me and I was not in a good emotional space to breeze over things so in that case, I should have simply ended the conversation. There are some things that I do not believe should be even validated. He insisted that he did not cheat on me. I tried to just listen but it got pretty emotional when he kept on pressing. I also ended up shooting a big hefty truth dart and while I do not regret that, we have not spoken to each other since.
Originally Posted By: LindaM
Oh Lord, this is all my fault, isn't it? Why couldn't I keep my big fat mouth shut? Do you think there is still a chance for me? Is this also a clear message to me that he is done?
What do you think? I guess I should ask my DB coach about this. I am so heartbroken again. What a stupid old woman I am
(((Linda))) I would have been cheesed. In fact, something similar happened once between my xSO and I and that ended in a huge brawl session. We are not expected to be super-human, hon. I am the Queen of beating myself up about things (always have been) so believe me when I tell you that your reaction was quite normal and natural.
Do I think there is a chance for you? Yes, I do. Do I think it may also take some time? Yes, I do. You have a good start. He is not screaming for D and he is living in the house. While he is fixing his mother's kitchen, you'll also have some space. Linda, does he not work at all? I am wondering if this MLC is being prolonged because he just feels bored or useless. Maybe that is where the Russian comes in?
