"You feel sad today, what do you have to feel sad about. You should just feel better, if you would do blah, blah, blah this wouldn't happen." Sound familiar to anyone?

yep! Thats how I spent most of my life trying to 'change'.

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home