Aw, what a dichotomy, PM. The sweet gesture of making her b-day special on the one hand, and the sad fact of signing the D papers.
Both were the right thing to do. It's important to do the right thing, no matter what and even when "the right thing" isn't easy. That's what I teach my kids and I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't live my life that way too.
Always doing the right is part of how I learned to live with myself. I can't understate the importance of it.
Originally Posted By: Papa4Life
How are you holding up? You seem fairly positive, challenges notwithstanding, so that's good.
Overall, I'm doing well. I'm having a tough couple of days, and I slipped a little bit by showing a little weakness this morning, but I put it behind me. I'm really focusing on making my girls' lives as awesome as I can. I'm a hard man, and I have high standards, but I also want to reward all the hard work and self discipline I teach and expect with not only the natural results of that hard work and self discipline, but I want to give them a childhood I didn't have: involved parents who loved them and showed them how to live, love, and enjoy life.
Originally Posted By: Papa4Life
Despite my DBing efforts, it seems as if my D will be finalized by the end of the summer. But I'm oddly at peace. I say oddly, because (obviously) it isn't what I want and it's most decidedly not what's best for my kids. Still, my DB work has helped me focus on myself and reconnect with the P4L I used to know and love. Everybody I've been coming into contact with (except STBXW, obviously, lol) tells me how much they admire my PMA and how much fun I am to be around. I really hope that you've reached that point in your own sitch!
I've been following your thread for a while now and I'm really rooting for you, amigo.
Stay positive and be well.
P4L.
Stay on track. Keep digging and working. I'm still going to plug away on my end, even after divorce. I am a changed man, not a man who was changed only until divorce, and she'll see that. Regardless of how she reacts long term, I'm a better man and my girls have a better father for it.
Thanks for your thoughts. I wish you all the best. Remember: a man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
