I like to post about stuff that happens with my xh from time to time to show how MLC can play out and hope it helps someone.

So, as some of you know, my xh was a particularly nutty MLCer. Some of the things that came out of his mouth were unbelieveable.

I really should have written a book.

Anyway, we dont have much real contact. He lives 5 hours away. son is over 21.

But from time to time, we do, for various reasons. I am happy to keep it at a minimum. I have forgiven him, really and truly and wish him well.

But because of the horrific things he did to me financially, which he still will not set right, though he is in a position to, while I continue to struggle, I see no reason to be friends at this time.

I hope my friend, True, is lurking. He always enjoyed a good convo between me and my ex.

I was going through some old photos. When h left, he took his clothes, that was it. Left things our son had given him, made him. Left it all. He knew where to find it, never asked.

But me being me, as I was going through these photos, I just felt that he should have them. I thought, he could do what he wants with them and I have done what I thought was right.

Ok, so I text him. Ready.....

Me; Was going through some old photos. Some of them are from when you were very young. I wanted to know if you would like to have them.

He: Photos?

Me: Um, yea. Photos, you know, you take them with a camera. You keep them as memories. LOL!

He: What kind of photos?

Me: Well, all of kinds. When you were a kid,a teenager, with your family, your son, with me. Did you forget you had pictures here?

He: I guess I hadnt thought of them.

Me: Ok, well, do you want me to pack them up and send them to you?

He: I guess so. You dont want to keep them?

Me: (Slapping my head)Um, not the ones of you as a kid and a teenager. Why would I?

He: So you can remember what I was like then.

Me: (slapping my head harder) But I didnt know you then. I asked son to take a look and he took a couple. So, do you want them?

He: What about the ones of us?

me: I kept the ones I wanted. I assume you dont want those.

He: Do we look happy?

Me: (Looking around for a hammer) Yes,we do. Very happy.

He: Ok, I want those.

Me: But not the ones of when you were young?

He: Yea, I guess those, too.

Me: Ok, I should have let it go at that as my head was pounding.

Me: So, I want to understand. You now want the photos of us, because we look happy. Is that right?

He: Yea, why wouldnt I?

And then, True, the I looked for the nearest wall.