Hi Wendylon, thanks for the bday wishes. Still cant shake off this bug though!
I think you may be right re mentioning OM and will give it some more thought. At least there is no rush in deciding what to do in that regard.
Your are right W has expressed no desire to work on the R, so yes my bargaining power is zero.
Given we are S I am doing what I can to be mysterious but that is a tough call given we only see each other twice a week at pick up and drop offs. However, she has commented on my new clothes, weight loss etc. Since I shaved my beard off I have caught the eye of a few people and even my boss now calls me the youth benchmark for the office.
"let him mess up while you stay the man that only a fool wouldn't go back to (and it sounds as if you are that man)". Thanks, I still see myself as a WIP at the moment but enjoying working on myself now so hope my changes are here to stay.
"You are made of strong stuff". Thank you - I am still prone to a wobble occasionally
and even my boss now calls me the youth benchmark for the office. 
