It wasn't just about asking how I was, H called to tell me he's not going on our holiday!! Feels as though I would have "expectations" about our trip. I said to him that that's not the case, well maybe a "little".( I didn't tell hm that though)
I reminded H that this was his idea that we still go together, he had sworn he wouldn't change his mind, the only way that he wouldn't go was if he was dead!!
His reply was "I haven't been very good at keeping my word have I??" and I replied no...
Told him I realize that he doesn't want me any more, that he loves the OW. All I wanted was to go, enjoy some time away, I know he is going to want to go off and do his own thing. I reminded him that if nothing else we have, through all of this, still been able to get along.
I then asked if the OW had had any thing to do with it. He got defensive and said he didn't want to talk about her, he makes his own decisions...
H also said if i didn't have any expectations why was i so disappointed?? I just said "would u prefer that I had cheered that you weren't going??"
I actually kept my cool pretty well, didn't over react. We then just started having a normal conversation just about "stuff", which was nice to do.just to diffuse the situation.
Before the end of our conversation he said he would re think about going and let me know. I'm not holding my breath though...
I "WILL" still go on our holiday even if he doesn't, and I did tell him that.... I am upset though that H has gone back on his word, don't feel as though I can believe anything he says.
I've just remembered the statement "Don't believe anything they say and only half of what u see"... How true!!
M:47 H:46 T:8.5yrs SD:19 May/2012 ?? H having EA Dec/2010 H distant Jan/10/2013 Confirms PA with OW for 1 month March/24/2013 OW still in the pic M:Moved out May 4th
