Honestly Clay, people will use you if they sense you have that need. They aren't doing it to be hurtful, they're just being human. In my last R when we broke up she said "I just don't want you to think I took advantage of you" and I said "of course you took advantage of me, why wouldn't you take advantage of me, I'd take advantage of me!" she also said "I thought you liked doing things for me because you loved me!" Wow. But hey, I couldn't stop myself 'cuz I was super boyfriend, there's nothing I can't do for you and don't worry about my needs 'cuz I won't trust you enough to tell you what they are! And when I did, she let me down. Anyway, I too have to really look at how to correct this sh!t so I don't repeat the same unhealthy, dysfunctional patterns yet again. I think it's important to learn to value yourself a little more so the impact of others is a bit less...and remember that if God loves you, knowing all your screw ups, then why shouldn't lesser beings!
