The letters from the bank about mortgage default... the H who was completely in charge of our finances.
I kept thinking he'd come to his senses. I simply could not believe it was really happening to me. In some senses, I still can't, almost 2 years later.
My disbelief and utter blindsidedness kept me from following good advice about proceeding quickly to get legal advice.
I'd say that you need to go to see some lawyers pretty much straight away.
If you don't have a source of income to pay for the mortgage yourself, you need to be protected from the craziness that is very likely to come.
I always thought i'd be pushing my H further away by putting legal provisions in place. Looking back, i don't think it would have made a difference. He was going to do this and there was nothing I could have done that would have stopped him. You need to protect yourself first.
And he needs to see some consequences, not from you, but from 'life' - i.e., you don't just walk out on a mortgage, and you don't just throw a spouse out on the street.
Armor-up LimboW, this is going to be the fight of your life. But you can do it. We're all here to help.
