NLW, thank you so much. Your reply means a lot. I appreciate hearing your story. I'm so sorry for what your family has been through.
You and snodderly are right about my H's behavior and his quest for survival. Nothing has changed with him so I don't know why I periodically get upset. Expecting something different from him is ridiculous on my part and leads to frustration and hopelessness.
I can do this. I know I can. Change = Hope. He won't change, but I can.
Thank you everyone for coming to my rescue this week. All of your wisdom and encourage keeps me going. I'm truly grateful!