What solution-oriented advice would you give yourself?
I would have to show my H that coming home would not be more of the same. He believes that if he came home, we would get on well for a couple of months, and then we would revert to our old ways of interacting.
How can I show him things could be different? By being different NOW!
I was independent, fun, energetic and dynamic before we married. I guess I will have to be independent, fun, energetic and dynamic now too, in spite of feeling as though I have the weight and sorrows of the world on my shoulders some days.
What would you tell yourself to keep doing?
Keep being positive in his presence
Try and stay positive out of his presence!
Spend less time on this BB, mulling over things, and more time out there achieving those goals I set myself!
What would you tell yourself to STOP doing?
Stop obssessing about this situation and spending hours every day on this BB
Stop assuming what he is thinking
Stop imagining that things will be bleak for ever more if he doesn't come home soon
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
