First of all, belated happy birthday for Tuesday and I hope that you're feeling better.
Secondly, re the possibility of OM, I wouldn't say anything to her if I'm right in thinking that she's not expressed a desire to work on the R. If that's the case, you have no bargaining power so what's the point of bringing it up? But let your suspicions guide your actions. If there is an OM, let him mess up while you stay the man that only a fool wouldn't go back to (and it sounds as if you are that man). I think it's great that you and W got your S12 ready for bed together and that it went so well. I bet she wouldn't get that with OM.
All her little niceties are non-negligible. They do add up. Keep GAL and let things with OM, if there is one, run their course. As you keep being the nicest co-parent and friend she could have whilst making it clear that you're making yourself a good life (with or without her), she's bound to start thinking about what she could be giving up. I don't see her as cake-eating at the moment since she's not working on reconciling with you so, as I said before, I don't see the point in you mentioning OM. I think you would just end up sounding jealous and needy.
By the way, are you mysterious enough that she could worry about you finding an OW?
Keep going, rkyfat. You are made of strong stuff.
Me: 51 H: 52 T: 23 yrs M: 19 yrs S18, D16, S14 (special needs) PA: 2003/2004 Piecing: 2004 on Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012
