I'm so glad you went and got a lot out of EE ("Essential Experience"). After talking to you and you saying you had not had a long or deep conversation like that in a long time, I know you'd find EE a pivotal experience.
Life is too short for superficial or destructive relationships when you can have, instead, meaningful connections with people who "get" you...
Make sure that you don't simply "feel" the effects of EE, but stay on contract.
That's how your life changes, by implementing the goals you set there.
You know how to contact me if you want to talk and I hope you do.
Congratulations on pushing your comfort zone SO MUCH
and doing just fine!!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Good to hear from you. EE was a psychological root canal, an emotional sweat lodge, and so wonderful and good and right and I was hoarse for two days after. I now understand why being on team must be wonderful too -.
Flavor: W comes home last night, calls hello to D, says nothing to me, and goes upstairs.
Dinner, which I had made, was a feta, walnut, and beet salad, along with hard bread. W complained that this was light fare, that she was hungrier than this. I felt angry, but said nothing and instead offered to get something more fattening, and anyway there was pie and ice cream for dessert. Not sure I reacted correctly on this, but perhaps this is trifling? In retrospect, I should have said "get yourself something more filling, then".
At dinner W avoided interaction with, and looking at, me, but I pointedly engaged her in conversation and she was forced to share a bit. How negative she can be, with a glass half empty, criticizing the dance teacher again, one of her slacker students (who will (correctly) fail English as a result), and an overweight neighbor. Not sure being near this negativity is good.
On contract so far -
Dry breeze from the northeast -
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
Here's a good all-purpose response to W's complaints: "I'm sorry you feel that way." Then mentally move along...
Or, there's always, "Oh, I'm sorry. You don't want that? I'll eat it." As you remove the offering... If she can't behave, she can't eat at such a fancy restaurant.
The beet salad is delicious, at least in my eyes (and it contained walnuts! Trader Joe's this time though), and there were no further complaints as the meal progressed, interestingly; perhaps this was just an unusual way of saying hello? ...
I like your all-purpose response to W(would that life had more such) - thanks. The vision of taking away the food is good - let's see how she responds to that!
L
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
If she can't behave, she can't eat at such a fancy restaurant.