Most men myself included arrive here in total shock. We were no longer the men our wives fell in love with, for whatever reason, work, trying to please, whining about life.
Read The Way of the Superior Man, Hold onto Your Nuts and No More Mr Nice Guy. Wild at Heart.
This isn't about being a macho jerk, it's about being true to yourself.
Big caveat. I ended up divorced but these other posters and books have invaluable advice.
Me 39 W 39 D8 S5 Married 13yrs Together 20years EA June 06 Ilyninlwy Jan 07 Seperated Jan 07