Okay, so week 1 after the bomb drop...Going thru a range of emotions. Sometimes, I am horribly sad. Most days, I just feel really numb. Which I guess, in some way is a form of detachment?He sends a text message, asking if I have received the papers yet. Classy. Really glad to go home, to visit my family and friends. I'm really assessing our situation, and I don't see this turning around...we have no children, and he's so removed from me..Literally in every aspect.
enough depressing info
Hope you all have a nice holiday weekend
M 32 H 35 M 3/ SS 8yrs BD 7/5/12 S 10/1/12 H wants Divorce 1/13 It's official served 5/13
"I'm really assessing our situation, and I don't see this turning around...we have no children, and he's so removed from me..Literally in every aspect"
Don't get too hung up on the not having children. Most think they are doing this for the good of the kids anyway so IMO it really does not matter to the MLCer whether children are involved or not. In fact some just completely abandon them so don't use this as a factor.
They are all removed.....its par for the course. He thinks his unhappiness is you and the M and is depressed.
Your emotions are completely normal and I still feel like that too. Exercise is my main release.
D isn't the final straw, its a piece of paper formalising what they think they want. Lots of R stories get to the point of no hope before a turnaround.
I read that the reason a lot of MLC never R is because the stander moves on. That a lot of MLCers do reach the point of wanting to return but its too late. There are no stats on this but it gives me hope in my darkest hours.
It also gives me some control over my sitch, the fact that it is only truly over when I decide its not healthy to stand anymore.
Take care of yourself first and foremost and enjoy the holidays too.
I read that the reason a lot of MLC never R is because the stander moves on. That a lot of MLCers do reach the point of wanting to return but its too late. There are no stats on this but it gives me hope in my darkest hours.
It also gives me some control over my sitch, the fact that it is only truly over when I decide its not healthy to stand anymore.
^^^Agreed. In our sitch I've been convinced for some time now that I'm more likely to end this M than she is.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
