thanks jp, i think ill reread my thread more slowly and think more on the advice ive been given.

Kaffe, you're right im trying to show HIM and i should be trying to show MYSELF what a good person i am. Im on the fence about it still but if do send it ill do it for myself and not try to impress him. thank you for pointing that out to me.

H:25 M:25
T: 9 1/2 Yrs
M: 5 Yrs

trouble in paradise: 1/18
Big D: 2/10
EA confirmed 3/11
H Leaves me: 3/30
Files: 4/8
Served: 4/15
OW Confirmed: 8/6
Divorce Final: ???