we own a business - pt 9 ... its about me!

[makingmagic]

tx t^2... I think it will be easier, in the beginning to start with the simpler stand-by validations. Thanks again..

KD ... you are suggesting that our "saturday shopping" isn't working. I disagree, most of our time together is productive and somewhat fun, light hearted. Exactly like earlier suggested, beneficial opportunities that have made him feel that I wasn't going to fall apart or R talk (always). He seems to enjoy some time together too, as he laughs or smiles at me. Why do you think it isn't working? (just because of this one incident?)

I don't believe I put my own spin on things, and I think you have a pretty clear understanding of my sitch too. Yes, I believe he is asking me to take on more responsibilities (because he is tired & needs a break), although he cannot fully give up control, he will want to get mad at me if I do something not "his way".

//I want to touch more on this last one, specifically. And I'm going to go out on a limb and submit that... it is possible... that he's telling you... HE doesn't necessarily trust his own judgement or decisions... or alternately, that he DOES TRUST YOUR judgement and decisions.///

I think both... not that he doesn't trust his, but that he is exhausted of ALL answers are to come from him. He is tired of the control, but won't let it go.

//Expecting more of himself so he also expects more and better from others. But really points to his own, personal issues.// He is a major MACHINE... he even calls himself a machine, and its true. He is always watching and reading others, forecasting situtions, he never turns his brain off... which is why he is so tired and cannot sleep. Always calculating his next move.

//Also notice, he suggests that you do your own thing and learn from your own mistakes and successes. THAT... could actually be your cue to allow him the same.//

Lets start there. Does the above make sense?


NO... sorry, now I am lost. all of the above makes perfect sense with the exception of the last comment...??
He does WHAT EVER he wants and without much discussion from me, what do you mean to allow him to do the same?

Looking forward to your comments!