[quote=complicated]a car out front said" Is your dad home?"/quote]
I just about pee'd myself when I read this! Doesn't say much about OW... and it also suggests you are doing a great job on looking so darned good and young!
Great job on ignoring her after telling her to leave your family alone.
Another thing that struck me is your H suggesting that the ADs and drinking put him in a fog. Sure, that combination won't help, but the fog was already there, no doubt.
On "where" he is? Possibly still in replay, although possibly just having a bit of a relapse but otherwise could have been on his way past replay, if he's going to go back to counselling.
Where to go from here? As your counsellor said, only you know and can decide when you have had enough of limbo and want to move on. Of course, it doesn't sound like you are ready to move on.
You've read DB and DR, so are you ready to try LRT or before you take that drastic step (because it CAN ultimately lead to D), or alternately what 180s and GAL are you doing?
Doesn't say much about OW... and it also suggests you are doing a great job on looking so darned good and young! 
