Portia, I like your new thread title. You will make it whether your SO wakes up on not. Portia, your independence didn't have a thing to do w/him flipping out. Please do not blame yourself for his walking away.
Many people in crisis do not contact their spouses or SO's for long periods of time. I can remember I didn't hear from mine for about 3 months. Yes, I was concerned, but I also knew that if something happened to him, I would hear about it. Right now, your SO is still exploring the world and finding things are interesting to him. He may even be in a depressive funk and who know if he's even seeing the work place counselor any longer, but the bottom line is this...he needs the space and time to explore and experiment in order to see what the world is like on the other side of the fence. I know it's not what you want and unfortunately, none of us had a say in what they did and continue to do.
Portia, take this time and rediscover you. You are a wonderful person and life has so much to offer you. If you feel the need to contact him, send him a note, but I would still wait until the 4th of July and this wish him a Happy Fourth of July and nothing more.
Time will tell if he's done...the question is how do you feel about the entire situation now? Are you done, sitting and waiting or moving forward and living your life as if he may not contact you again?
Linda, I would have done the same thing if I had discovered that my h had sent flowers to his twinkle twat, not once but twice around my birthday. At the time, you weren't away of the tools that you need to deal w/this crazy people. Now, you have them and it sounds like you are working on your techniques a bit better these days.
BTW, I did a google on Russian folklore and read that garlic is used quite a bit as well. You might want to get some and hang it in his room to ward off evil spirits. LOL!
Ladies, enjoy your holiday weekend. Get out there and do something special or fun for yourselves and leave the mlc madness behind.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
